roam/20200713191259-slaa.org

#+title: Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous
#+roam_alias: "S.L.A.A." "SLAA"

* Documents
**  The Twelve Steps of S.L.A.A. :ATTACH:
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1. We admitted we were powerless over sex and love addiction - that our lives
   had become unmanageable.
2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to
   sanity.
3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we
   understood God.
4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
5. Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of
   our wrongs.
6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
7. Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings. 8. Made a list of all persons we
   had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so
   would injure them or others.
10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly
    admitted it.
11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with a
    Power greater than ourselves, praying only for knowledge of God's will for
    us and the power to carry that out.
12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to
    carry this message to sex and love addicts and to practice these principles
    in all areas of our lives.

** The Twelve Traditions of S.L.A.A. :ATTACH:
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1. Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends upon S.L.A.A.
   unity.
2. For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority -- a loving God as
   this Power may be expressed through our group conscience. Our leaders are but
   trusted servants; they do not govern.
3. The only requirement for S.L.A.A. membership is a desire to stop living out a
   pattern of sex and love addiction. Any two or more persons gathered together
   for mutual aid in recovering from sex and love addiction may call themselves
   an S.L.A.A. group, provided that as a group they have no other affiliation.
4. Each group should be autonomous except in matters affecting other groups or
   S.L.A.A. as a whole.
5. Each group has but one primary purpose -- to carry its message to the sex and
   love addict who still suffers.
6. An S.L.A.A. group or S.L.A.A. as a whole ought never endorse, finance, or
   lend the S.L.A.A. name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest
   problems of money, property, or prestige divert us from our primary purpose.
7. Every S.L.A.A. group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside
   contributions.
8. S.L.A.A. should remain forever nonprofessional, but our service centers may
   employ special workers.
9. S.L.A.A. as such ought never be organized; but we may create service boards
   or committees directly responsible to those they serve.
10. S.L.A.A. has no opinion on outside issues; hence the S.L.A.A. name ought
    never be drawn into public controversy.
11. Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we
    need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, TV,
    film, and other public media. We need guard with special care the anonymity
    of all fellow S.L.A.A. members.
12. Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions, ever reminding
    us to place principles before personalities.

** The S.L.A.A. Preamble :ATTACH:
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Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous is a Twelve Step, Twelve Tradition oriented
fellowship based on the model pioneered by Alcoholics Anonymous.

The only qualification for S.L.A.A. membership is a desire to stop living out a
pattern of sex and love addiction. S.L.A.A. is supported entirely through the
contributions of its membership and is free to all who need it.

To counter the destructive consequences of sex and love addiction, we draw on
five major resources:
1. *Sobriety*. Our willingness to stop acting out in our own personal
   bottom-line addictive behavior on a daily basis.
2. *Sponsorship / Meetings*. Our capacity to reach out for the supportive
   fellowship within S.L.A.A.
3. *Steps*. Our practice of the Twelve Step program of recovery to achieve
   sexual and emotional sobriety.
4. *Service*. Our giving back to the S.L.A.A. community what we continue to
   freely receive.
5. *Spirituality*. Our developing a relationship with a Power greater than
   ourselves which can guide and sustain us in recovery.

As a fellowship S.L.A.A. has no opinion on outside issues and seeks no
controversy. S.L.A.A. is not affiliated with any other organizations, movements
or causes, either religious or secular. We are, however, united in a common
focus: dealing with our addictive sexual and emotional behavior. We find a
common denominator in our obsessive/compulsive patterns, which transcends any
personal differences of sexual orientation or gender identity. We need protect
with special care the anonymity of every S.L.A.A. member. Additionally we try to
avoid drawing undue attention to S.L.A.A. as a whole from the public media.

** Characteristics of Sex and Love Addiction :ATTACH:
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1. Having few healthy boundaries, we become sexually involved with and/or
   emotionally attached to people without knowing them.
2. Fearing abandonment and loneliness, we stay in and return to painful,
   destructive relationships, concealing our dependency needs from ourselves and
   others, growing more isolated and alienated from friends and loved ones,
   ourselves, and God.
3. Fearing emotional and/or sexual deprivation, we compulsively pursue and
   involve ourselves in one relationship after another, sometimes having more
   than one sexual or emotional liaison at a time.
4. We confuse love with neediness, physical and sexual attraction, pity and/or
   the need to rescue or be rescued.
5. We feel empty and incomplete when we are alone. Even though we fear intimacy
   and commitment, we continually search for relationships and sexual contacts.
6. We sexualize stress, guilt, loneliness, anger, shame, fear and envy. We use
   sex or emotional dependence as substitutes for nurturing care, and support.
7. We use sex and emotional involvement to manipulate and control others.
8. We become immobilized or seriously distracted by romantic or sexual
   obsessions or fantasies.
9. We avoid responsibility for ourselves by attaching ourselves to people who
   are emotionally unavailable.
10. We stay enslaved to emotional dependency, romantic intrigue, or compulsive
    sexual activities.
11. To avoid feeling vulnerable, we may retreat from all intimate involvement,
    mistaking sexual and emotional anorexia for recovery.
12. We assign magical qualities to others. We idealize and pursue them, then
    blame them for not fulfilling our fantasies and expectations.

* Resources
- [[https://slaafws.org/][Fellowship-Wide Services]]