roam/20200809221723-is_trans_a_slur.org

#+title: Is trans a slur

[[file:20210101025247-transgender.org][Trans]] is merely the accurate descriptor. To my knowledge it's never been
inherently negative, though the tone of a person using it may sometimes be. It
has certainly been perverted into [[file:20210104201824-slur.org][slurs]], e.g. "tranny" It does seem some folks
see the idea of transness so repulsive that they interpret it as a slur,
something to fling at someone they see as less than, particularly when they fail
to meet some perceived standard of appearance. In that sense, it mirrors common
derogatory use of "gay", or the good old misogynistic labeling of perceived
insufficient masculinity as being "girly".

Honestly, all three of those things likely had a significant impact on my own
progress on a sense of self. That sense that being non hetero was a negative,
that physical weakness or not liking trucks and fighting was negatively
feminine, and that [[file:20200719003936-being_transgender.org][transness]] as depicted to me by way of popular media was
either villainous and deceptive, a sexual perversion, or a joke. Those have
always been the problems through. Not the word.